Mend Broken Heart – Good News, Read On

Has your heart just been broken…I have good news for you…it wasn’t your heart; it was that beautiful illusion that you created for yourself and believed in. It was a fairy tale inside your brain that you have been waiting to come true since you remember yourself being able to fall in love.

It feels good to create an illusion.  According to the dictionary, illusion is “something many people believe in that is false”.

You think about the man who happens to be so different from all your other unfortunate experiences and in your own mind every day when he makes you feel good, you “make” him more and more attractive.

In a while, he becomes so perfect that you even can’t see him as real anymore. Plus, you absolutely do not want to face the reality; you like your own creation because it’s so close to that Prince Charming we all have been waiting for since preschool.

Did everything start with that intense click that was more like electricity between you two? And now you are sitting and thinking about the dozens of sweet, flirty, sexy text messages and phone calls you enjoyed so much.

Do you remember what happened to you when he said the words you have dreamed to hear for such a long time? And, of course, you lost your sense of reality right away…

Do you remember the feeling of relieve we women have when we realize that the dating game is over and we can have the relationships…real, normal, happy, and healthy relationships we are programmed to have…Our society, grandmothers, and mothers did a very destructive job by telling us that there is nothing more important than to “live happily ever after”…

However, let’s face the reality now (if you would like to move forward to real inner happiness you have to face it anyway). This great, amazing Prince Charming was created in your personal video game of imagination and all pain you feel now is because the “game is over.” Your illusion is broken, your ego is hurt, and your most hated dating game is still in the near future (unless you would like to give up forever).

Meeting a real man who would be everything we dreamed about is like using the aircraft for traveling – we all know that aircrafts exist but very few people actually were inside.

However, we can’t fight our female nature and kill the hope of complete happiness…We have to just…accept the situation, do a mental inventory, convince ourselves to move forward and…actually start moving.

You should not let your heart be broken. You have to train your heart and grow it so big that when a break up will occur (and nothing lasts forever in this life, remember?) you will be totally prepared to give up the piece of your heart to this man. You should be able to give him not only the part of your heart, but also a lot of your love without any regrets and hesitations.

When you will be able to do that, you’ll become wiser, better, and most importantly a more experienced person who would deserve to be loved more and more each time this happen. Then, eventually when you are truly and genuinely ready to love, to share, to give without being selfish, the Universe will send you the one…who will save you from that “dating game” for the rest of your life! 

How To Break Up

There are two view points on how to break up: from the person who initiates the break up and from the person who is dumped. Doesn’t matter which side you were…because a break up is…Great!

Reasons why a Break Up is a good thing:

1)    Do you like traveling? Who doesn’t? You can see your break up as an opportunity to travel in your life – you’ll see new people, new opportunities, and new places. If your relationships are broken – look at them as a dirty, neglected house you would like to renovate.
2)    Even if you are the most gorgeous woman at the world – there is always field for improvement. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who loves herself. The break up period is the best time to fall in love with yourself and enjoy your freedom.
3)    A Break up is not an end – it’s a new beginning. But it’s a beginning of something better. Look at the break up like pulling wisdom teeth – you will be scared to do it, then you’ll feel terrible after the procedure, but eventually you’ll feel great and look better.
Now, let’s get back on “How To Break Up”

If the break up is HIS idea

1)    Break up like a Lady – do not raise your voice, cry, pull out your gun, or throw your favorite china at him – he doesn’t deserve it.

2)    Just look at him, give the best Hollywood smile you can imagine and say “Thank you, it’s a great idea, I was thinking the same”.

3)   Then  Leave with the happiest look at your face.

4)    I do not suggest to cry, drink, eat all your ice cream and chocolate, send press release to all friends, family members, etc. You can do some of that but very quickly – you will have better things to do shortly.

5)    Commit to not answering his calls, emails, etc. for one month (if you commit for more – you’ll fail, I’ll explain to you later why it’s important)

If the break up is YOUR idea:

1)    Do not break up with him via text message or email – if you had any sort of relationship, then he deserves at least a phone call.

2)    Do not go into long explanations and give multiple reasons – just say “unfortunately, at this stage of my life I cannot be your girlfriend.”

3)    Do not feel guilty – you have only one life and can spend it the way you want.

4)    Do not tell him “let’s be friends” because he will “agree” with a hidden thought that you’ll come back.

5)    Do not agree on “good bye sex.”