Get Over Ex

As much as you tend to look up for the article “how to get your ex back”, I suggest sticking with the “get over your ex” routine!

I know one man who was the most mind twisted player I’ve ever met. Nobody thought that he would ever have a family (or even a long term girlfriend). Recently he got married.

I was very curious and called him asking him, “How?” His answer surprised me a lot…”Dating is like gambling; as soon as you start losing, just get up and leave the table and as soon as you hit jackpot, you’ll hear the sound and get all money. I hit a jackpot, my wife is the one. I wasn’t playing, I was just actively looking.” “Is she one of the multiple girls you went out with?” I asked him. “No, men don’t really like to go back…unless it’s for sex,” he answered with a smile.

If you call a man “my ex” it means that that relationship is over. It means it just didn’t work out. You can read all the “how to get a  man” books, lose 20 pounds, get a “Hollywood smile”,  learn Thai massage, belly dancing, Italian cooking and…it won’t work even if you‘ll have another chance with the same man. Don’t get me wrong, you really can get your ex back (it’s possible, it’s doable but it is not worth the efforts because if something didn’t work out once, it won’t work out again).

Here is a checklist of things that needs to be done in order to GET OVER YOUR EX:

1)     Switch your focus from him to yourself. Trust me if he deserved your attention, you deserve it even more. Promise yourself to focus on yourself for one month. I’m not talking about becoming selfish. I suggest you pay yourself the attention that you haven’t had since you met your former “prince charming.”

2)     List all the areas of your life on a piece of paper (except your private life): appearance, work, social life, personal interests, family, friends, etc. Decide what needs improvement

3)     Create a tight schedule for one month for all activities that had been missing and stick to it. Make yourself absolutely busy.

4)     Do not go on dates with any man for at least for 30 days. Yes, not casual dates, booty calls with other exes, no one night desperate stands. Nothing (there is an explanation in my book of why you should avoid it).

5)     Do not communicate with your ex for 30 days (even if he calls you and says that he realized all his mistakes and waiting for you on his knee with a ring).

Being attached to your ex is completely in your head and in your soul. You have to save all your valuable energy that you send in his direction, refocus, and do something productive and good for yourself.

If you think realistically when you think about your ex, you just marinade your past feelings that felt good before. This condition is dangerous for you because it’s addictive and you don’t want to be stuck in this for a long period of time.

Thinking of your ex won’t make you feel positive because the relationship is over and you can’t afford to feel negative. Why? Again, as I write in each and every article, because like attracts like and you need to bring positive people and events back into your life.

So follow the directions on the way to a new, happy, and exciting life. Do you want to have true love? Do you want someone really great and right for you to tell you the magical words “I love you, babe?” If so then you have to live for a while being that “babe.” Trust me, change your feelings and the situation will turn around as soon as you get over ex!